I am an extremely flawed person. I make lots of mistakes. I get attracted to sin and repulsed by goodness if it’s not in the milieu. I forgot why I do things. I start doing things for the wrong motivations. Because I am flawed, I need to be kind and forgiving of others and give them second chances. At the same time, my role is not to be an uninvited academic advisor and become a tool of someone else.
Forgive, but also be normal kind. not over kind or over “drop all you things” to help others. They won’t respect you at the end.