Choosing what to think about, focus, and what your default setting is
-focus is associated with happiness (M. Csikszentmihalyi)
-A close connection between the children’s ability to control their attention and their ability to control emotions. (D. Kahnemann)
learning how to think really means learning how to exercise some control over how and what you think. It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience (D.F. Wallace).
If you’re automatically sure that you know what reality is, and you are operating on your default setting, then you, like me, probably won’t consider possibilities that aren’t annoying and miserable. But if you really learn how to pay attention, then you will know there are other options. (D.F. Wallace)
The really important kind of freedom involves attention and awareness and discipline, and being able to truly care about other people and to sacrifice for them over and over again in myriad petty, unsexy ways everyday. (D.F.Wallace)